Recovering from divorce is like climbing a mountain. While it can seem like a daunting task as you look up from below, you know you must start by taking one step at a time. The ground is often uneven and rugged. Sometimes you take smaller steps and at other times you take a big leap. There is often a need for breaks and reassessing your path. For many, divorce recovery is a very difficult journey! Fortunately, it doesn’t need to be so hard. Those who reach out for assistance after divorce often reach the top of their mountain much quicker and they are much more fulfilled and rewarded at the top.
Of course, there is an adjustment period after becoming divorced. During this period there are critical, specific steps of learning that are paramount for you to take so you can heal along the way. If you’re like most of us, you probably have some destructive patterns of behavior going on that got in the way of your happiness. These destructive patterns lead to self-sabotage and that is what put you where you are today. Perhaps these patterns developed during your childhood, or maybe later after you left home and became more independent. During the time you were in a loving relationship, you might have been comfortable enough that you felt no need to change your behavior patterns. Now that the marriage is over, it is for your greatest benefit to discover how you contributed to the problems and how you can change. This enables a great opportunity for you to grow. How long will it take to reach the top of your mountain? This is hard to predict. Some will make it in less time, others in more. Having a coach to help you navigate the obstacles and keep you moving forward is a BIG help!. Although finishing the climb is what counts, always climb at your own pace. Your coach will help you stay on track.
It’s Over… Be Well… Move On.
by Christina Waggoner
A Holistic Guide to Assist You in Healing, Embracing Change and Rebuilding Your Life After Divorce